Charmaine Pandya | NLP

September 26, 2016

When you set goals that are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time specific and still do not achieve your goal.

If I could show you a simple way that you can achieve any goal that you want, would you be interested? You may already be aware how some of the goals you set get accomplished and some don’t.  ‘I want to be on time for a meeting, I want to earn $5000 a month, I want to be financially independent, I want to...

August 29, 2016

I was in conversation with a coaching client when she had a eureka moment.  She said, "I finally know what my problem is, I like to be liked. I remember as far back as when I was a little girl and I had to be liked by everyone. If there was one person who was not particularly fond of me, I would make it my business to get them to like me. I constantly need others to approve of me and validate me and this has become a pattern in my l...

June 6, 2016

You go to a meeting or lunch with friends and someone makes a not so nice comment and your mind shuts down, you just cannot let it go. What does your inner voice say?

Imagine you have rearranged your entire day to accommodate a client/friend, who needed to see you urgently, and then at the 11th hour the person does not show up.  What do you think?

 You spend all your time and effort on a business idea/ project and you cannot attract a...

April 24, 2016

I used to find perfectly good and valid reasons not to do the things I said I wanted to do. 

“I can’t start my day without a coffee”…

“I’m not a morning person so I can’t get to work on time”…

“I can’t go to the gym because my children need me”…

"I can't swim because it gives me a headache"...

Fritz Perls, the originator of Gestalt Therapy*, and one of the three major therapists NLP was modeled on, used to respond to his clients who said...

February 15, 2016

Do you remember a time when someone disrespected you... and you got upset... and you just could not shift that feeling? Then something else happened that upset you even more and the day was not as productive as you would have liked. Or  you had a disagreement with a co-worker, spouse or child and you could not focus on anything else. 

You kept replaying that conversatio...

February 7, 2016

Do you have goals that you set repeatedly and never get accomplished?

Now you may get started on it but you don’t complete it or you might not start at all and yet they keep making it on your list of goals. Have you ever wondered what would get you to achieve the goals you desire? Do you want to find a way to get motivated and stay motivated?

Here are seven steps to achieve a goal  based on years of study on understanding motivational...

January 25, 2016

Imagine you are having a challenging day at work… or your partner just does not understand what you are trying to communicate … or when you have that bill you don’t have the money to pay… Or when you have decided to quit sugar and pass a Patisserie.

Do you believe life is hard?

If I had luck on my side I would be successful ...

I have done everything I could possibly do in this situation...

I cannot lose weight because of my genes (that...

September 29, 2015

Is it time to let go of things we hold on to? What does holding on to pain give us? How can we let it go?

I often come across clients who say they want to let go of the past and yet they are not willing to let go.  On delving deeper the reason they hold on to it is because they believe it gives them memories, learnings, security and protection. So what does reminding ourselves of the pain really give us? Have you noticed when we are...

September 8, 2015

Everyday I deal with fear, it used to be my own and now it's from my environment. As a coach, I ask, would you pay interest on a loan you have not taken? And the answer is always no. It's pretty much the same with fear, isn't it? You are living something that has not happened. Worse still you are focusing on something that has not happened. Imagine you are driving a car  and you lose control of the wheel and the car is going to...

August 23, 2015

A person is not their behaviour.

Behaviours are what we do with our emotions. Between what is said and not  

 meant, and what is meant and not said, most of the love is lost.

Change makes change.

Don’t want” does not lead to what you do want.  Focus on what you want.

Every behavior has a positive intention and is useful in some context.

F-E-A-R: Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rise.

Gratitude is the antidote to fear and a...

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